I am a management trainee at a well-known company and have been offered a sought-after posting - a year's stint in our New York office. My difficulty is that it would mean leaving my boyfriend - a junior hospital doctor - behind. He says I should go, but I'm worried our relationship won't survive. Part of me wants to tell my boss the truth, but I fear it would make me look drippy and uncommitted. This isn't fair - I am committed - but I don't see why I have to choose: why can't I have love and interesting work?

Management trainee, female, 24